Wednesday, April 6, 2016

What is and What is not the role of a Parent Coordinator. Kendall Wagner,MFT

The role of a Parent Coordinator has been a part of the family court system for over 15 years, still many people are not familiar with the role and how a PC can help. Here is a short video by an Attorney in Arizona that nicely clarifies the role.
As a PC, I have training in Dispute Resolution, Mental Health, Parenting, Child Development and over 20 years practicing and working with families in the North San Diego Area.

Although most Parent Coordinator cases are court ordered, I do work with families that have agreed to meet with a PC in lieu of returning to court and to help lower the conflict between the parents for the betterment of the children.

Please watch the video and feel free to contact the Carlsbad Counseling Center with any questions you may have.
What is a Parenting Coordinator?

Kendall Wagner, MFT

Monday, April 4, 2016

A portion of an article by Diane L. Danois, J.D. on when to call a Parenting Coordinator

Top 10 Signs That It’s Time to Call a Parenting Coordinator
1. Your monthly legal bill exceeds your rent or mortgage payment;
2. You spend more time in your attorney’s office than with your friends;
3. Your vacations are spent reviewing depositions, drafting motions, hiring investigators, etc. etc.;
4. Your children are exhibiting classic signs and symptoms of children of high-conflict divorce, such as failing grades, sexual promiscuity, and drug use;
5. You spend more time in the courthouse than on the golf course;
6. The judge assigned to your case knows you by name and recognizes your face in the supermarket;
7. You seem to be paying for your attorney’s kids’ education instead of your own;
8. Your attorney doesn’t seem to want to take your phone calls anymore, and only reluctantly responds to your emails;
9. You seem to be having an ongoing, friendly relationship with your local process-server; and
10. You’ve hired and fired multiple attorneys, and just can’t seem to find one who “gets” you.
Wouldn’t you rather put your divorce behind you and never ever ever be forced to have a volatile engagement with your former spouse again? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to co-parent without the venomous hostility that consumes your life, and worse, hurts your children? If you see yourself in the above list, imagine what life might look like after working with a parenting coordinator. A measure of the true success of a parenting coordinator is in what are the “Not.” Imagine yourself Notgoing to court; Not calling your attorney; Not litigating; Not calling the police; Notmissing holidays and special occasions; Not fighting with the ex spouse/ex partner; and Not being constantly frustrated and angry regarding co-parenting. You canachieve this result.
Parent Coordinator is not for all litigated custody and parenting cases but is can for many. Please call  the Carlsbad Counseling Center.
760-434-9694 or
Kendall Wagner,MFT is a trained mediator, psychotherapist, parent and child development specialist that brings the various areas of expertise to her role of Parent Coordinator.