Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Top 5- Back to School to get Back to You! Kendall Wagner,MFT

I was walking with a friend the other day and she was telling me about the changes she makes and wants to make in September. "It is like a fresh start".. As a child we had friends that their mom on the first day of school would close the gate (think country road) and have the day for herself. I find myself starting new projects.
Children go back to school, they start fresh we can push the reset or new start button. Here are 5 tips to have a fresh fall vs. waiting until the new year.
1. Walk, swim, do some exercise daily. Park at the far end of the parking lot, walk to pick the kids up from school, take your tennis shoes to work and walk and eat fruit at lunch.

2. Start a SMALL project: start a book, clean a closet, try a new recipe. Small success' will build your confidence and set an example to your children on how to try, try and finally succeed.

3. (warning:Not Fun) Go over your finances. If you are not the finance person. Take a scavenger hunt and know where things are. If you are the finance person, do a quick over view of things you want to get done before the end of the year. I am a big fan of It is free and a great overview of all your credit.

4. Self-Care: Along with physical activity, there is the role your physical health has in your life. Make that
Dr. appt. get the mole checked, tummy or other pain checked out, physical done. If you do not take care of your physical self, the rest cannot happen.

5. Emotional Self-Care: This is not a shameless plug for counseling (online even:) ) .. Although that is a good choice in your emotional self care. Others are taking 10 mins. for yourself. If you are Spiritual, meditate or pray, treat yourself well. Do something for yourself that you would do for a friend. Watch a movie. The list goes on. Sometimes counseling is helpful.. but now is the time to not only provide Emotional Self-Care but to teach by example for your children.

If you are past the young parenting stage, we never stop being parents, then look at resetting your relationships with those around you, near and far.

These are just a few ways to reset the Self-Care and move in a positive direction. Let your New Years Resolution be about going to the next level, not just starting something.

Kendall Wagner, MFT is the Clinical Director of the Carlsbad Counseling Center. Providing online and in-person counseling and parenting thru out California. Office for in person care: Carlsbad .
To Contact Kendall Directly: 760-434-9694 or

Monday, August 29, 2016

Telehealth Counseling is now online.

Telehealth counseling has now completed the set up for online therapy. You must be a resident of California.

With  our office in Carlsbadyou have the opportunity to meet online and then in person during in person office hours.

Please feel free to check it out.
Kendall Wagner, MFT Telehealth Counseling

There is also a link from our main website. Carlsbad Counseling

Carlsbad Counseling Center
760 434-9694

Please note: if this is a mental health emergency, you must go to your closest emergency room or call 911.

Friday, August 26, 2016

Online Counseling: When is it a good idea? Kendall Wagner, MFT

I have always had extended contact with my clients thru text and emails between clinical sessions. I have also in the past had extended check ins while clients were on vacation. Over the last few years, the Board of Behavioral Sciences and CAMFT (our professional group) has explored the pros and cons of online counseling and psychotherapy. Recently, the BBS has formalized the guidelines for providing online care.
In clarifying these, Carlsbad Counseling Center is now comfortable launching online counseling /psychotherapy when the guidelines are met and when it is deemed appropriate for the given client.

Here is the link to the BBS guidelines

Before beginning online care, please consider:
1. If there is a licensed person that you are able to meet with in your area at the times you are available.

2. In case of an emergency, there will need to be a plan in place knowing your local resources.

3. Be clear why you would like online care. The relationship with your therapist is a part of the process, online or in person, you must develop the same working relationship.

4. You must reside in California.

If you are still interested in exploring online counseling or psychotherapy. (see blog post about the differences) then please contact me at
call me at 760 434-9694.

To Book an Online Session, please visit: Telehealth Counseling

We will discuss your needs ( a traditional phone consult) and determine if this option for services is for you. Also if you have the technology to assure a confidential communication on your end.
Tele Health Counseling